by Sally Matheny
|College Student: Be a Game-Changer|
When my children were preschoolers, they “beat” me in every game. I made sure they buzzed in answers before me, scored the most points, and reached the finish line first.
Why? Because I did not want them to be upset if they failed to win.
The same took place in other areas. Batches of backward letters were praised, rather, than reshaped. Misspoken words adored instead of corrected. Scored baskets enticed wild cheers at their first basketball games. We did not dare mention the refs overlooking some serious walking infractions.
Why? Because I, like many others, wanted my child to feel successful.
Eventually, we enforced playing games with integrity. Corrections began to flow into all areas of my kids’ lives. Sometimes they did get upset. Angry outbursts, tears, and “I quit” attitudes emerged.
For the sake of peace, I almost wanted to slip back into letting them be right, even if they were wrong. Almost.
Which brings me to today’s topic. Have you heard of "adulting"?