by Sally Matheny
|Are we teaching our children to dishonor their fathers?|
One, simple word, yet highly esteemed.
Most Christians know the fifth commandment given by God.
“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the Lord your God is giving you.” Exodus 20:12
Perhaps we’ve heard it so often we have become complacent about it.
I wonder. Are we teaching our children to dishonor their father?
Let me say, I understand not all fathers exhibit behaviors that are excellent and praiseworthy. Dads make mistakes. Some make more than others do.
However, God did not say honor your parents if they are kind, popular, or (fill-in-the-blank). God said to honor them.
I specifically want to address moms today.
As Christians, we long for our children to grow closer in their relationship with God. We know this is the key for them to thrive on this earth with hope and joy.
We pray that they will long for, learn from, and lean on Jesus Christ. One way to teach our children how to revere the Creator of the universe is to teach them how to how to honor their earthly father.
The best way to educate is to live by example. There are three ways to model honor—with attitude, words, and deeds.
Honor Begins With Attitude
I could say honor begins in the heart but if love or respect is lacking in the relationship, then that may not be the case.
So, let’s say it begins in the mind. It is an attitude we choose because God calls us to do it. If children have a loving father, this may not be near as difficult as it will be for those who do not.
Still, even if blessed with a godly father, we are naturally bent towards disobedience and selfish ambition. We need help in shaping a mindset pleasing to God.