by Sally Matheny
Dub Him as the Bedtime Chieftain
It's your turn. How do you encourage your
husband as the spiritual leader of your family?
Many women long for their husbands to spiritually lead their families. Although
they are Christians, some men struggle in this area. Perhaps they are new
Christians, or did not have a Christian father role model.
Whatever the reason, moms should not assume the full responsibility of spiritual training the children. What are moms to do, then? Here are
three ways to help Dad become the spiritual leader of the home.
Dub Him as the Bedtime Chieftain
As your children grow, gradually move to Christian devotion books and children’s Bibles with meatier content. Choose books that are easily understood.
The earlier you start this bedtime tradition the better. The books will spur conversations about God and your children will treasure this special time with Dad.
The earlier you start this bedtime tradition the better. The books will spur conversations about God and your children will treasure this special time with Dad.
Promote
Popcorn Prayers
Perhaps your husband isn’t comfortable
praying aloud. At meal times, why not suggest a popcorn prayer. This is a great
way to involve the whole family. Each person will say one word or sentence. It
may begin by each person thanking God for one thing. After each member has “popped”
up and prayed, another topic may begin such as asking for God’s help with a certain
matter. Over time, family members grow more comfortable with praying and prayers flow more freely.
Direct
Them to Dad’s Counsel
Family dynamics vary. Sometimes
children seek out Mom more than Dad on things close to their hearts—whether it’s
fears, disappointments, or loves. It’s an honor when children trust
their moms with their deepest thoughts. It’s good to have those special times;
however, those are also great opportunities for you to direct them to Dad’s
counsel.
Mom, look for occasions when you can
point your child towards his father for guidance. Even if you know an
appropriate response, perhaps say something like, “I know how much this meant
to you. Something similar happened to your dad once. Let’s go talk to him and
see what he says.”
Or, counsel your child if the need is
immediate, but later share with your husband what took place. Suggest he talk
with the child and vice versa. Provide opportunities for your husband to
encourage the children.
Will he get it right every time? No. Like
everything else, spiritual leadership improves with practice.
One of the best things a wife can do for
her husband is to pray for him. Show respect and appreciation as he learns from
God and grows into his role. Cheer your husband on to be strong and courageous
as he pursues God’s will.
As
a bonus, here are two websites listing helpful books for dads on Christian
parenting:
Two websites with lists of helpful books for dads on Christian parenting are
and
Christianfathers.com http://www.christianfathers.com/.
Also,
Focus on the Family has a blog for dads by dads:
