by Sally Matheny
Young Couple Made a Wise Decision Before Announcing Engagement |
Since my husband is a pastor, we have several
copies of a Bible study workbook titled, Before
You Say I Do, by Norman Wright. He uses this book when counseling young,
engaged couples.
Much
to our delight, several months before our daughter became engaged; she and her
boyfriend, Samuel, asked if they could have a copy of the workbook. Even though they both
regularly talk to their pastors, they wanted to work through the book
together while they were away at college. It took some finagling, but they squeezed the Bible study in between their classes and work schedules.
Since
the post, Get
Engaged? Before You Set the Date, There’s One Thing You Need to Do ranks
in the top ten of most viewed posts; I thought you might like to hear from Emily
and Samuel about their experience of working through the Before You Say I Do book together. Here is our conversation.
Before You Say I Do covers a variety of topics--role expectations, financial priorities, in-law relationships, and more. Did you enjoy working through this Bible study workbook?
Emily:
“It was a very positive experience and we enjoyed spending time working through
the Bible study together. We never would have thought of some of those
discussion questions on our own. Some assignments we were to do separately and
then share our answers. The study confirmed our mutual beliefs and
expectations.”
Samuel:
“I liked it, too. I recommend it to couples who are talking about marriage. Do
as much as you can to consider scenarios that may happen. You’ll never be totally prepared, but the Bible study
will be helpful."
Samuel:
“Yes, it covered everything very well. It was very thorough and Biblically
sound.”
Emily:
“I agree. It was well written. We liked reading the scriptures that
corresponded with the discussion topics. However, some of the Biblical reading
was extensive."
Samuel: "Yes, the ones with four or five scripture passages to back up a point
were sufficient for us. The ones with something like eighteen passages to read were
a bit much. And, I love the Bible!"
Perhaps they listed all those Biblical truths in case someone had doubts about a certain topic, such as tithing or leadership in the home.
Emily: "Probably so. We agreed with all the points made and we definitely
want to follow God’s Word."
Was there anything you had to talk more in
depth about or something new you discovered about one another?
Emily: "We laughed at some of our answers! There was a question concerning time spent
with friends after we’re married—if we wanted to spend time individually with
our friends, or spend time as a couple with friends. I answered to spend time
as a couple with friends, and Samuel answered it was important to spend time
individually as friends. We thought it was funny because we were sure the other
would agree and write the same answer! We laughed but we also had a great
conversation. We decided it was important to do both—meet with friends individually
and as a couple."
Do you think working through the book has
better prepared you for marriage?
Samuel:
“Yes, absolutely. It brought up issues
we probably would not have known how to deal with until they happened.
Addressing them now will reduce stress later. I think working through the workbook
has made us stronger as a team going into the marriage.”
Samuel and Emily, thanks for sharing your
thoughts with us! I look forward to your spring wedding and to what God has in store for you both.
This is one mama, and future mama-in-law, who is blessed beyond measure to know
these two hearts belong to Jesus. Their love for Christ is in how they talk, how
they live, and how they treat one another. There is a wonderful peace and
indescribable joy in that knowledge because no one is perfect, and mistakes are inevitable.
Life
is wonderful, but it can be difficult at times. The same goes for marriage. I cannot
imagine a fulfilling marriage without Jesus Christ in the center of it. If you
know of someone considering marriage, suggest one of these Bible study
workbooks. I recently learned Norman Wright has also published the following
titles. I’d love to add these to my pastor-husband’s library as well.
Join in
the conversation! What godly advice would you offer a young couple? Are there
other Christian books you’d recommend for couples considering marriage?
You may also enjoy reading:
Get Engaged? Before You Set the Date
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You may also enjoy reading:
Get Engaged? Before You Set the Date
Planning a Beautiful Wedding Reception on a Budget
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