by Sally Matheny
May is Date Your Mate Month |
Are you married? Did you know May is “Date Your Mate” month? It’s essential we put caring for Biblically based
marriages at the top of our lists. Christians, our marriages are influential
testimonies to the love and power of God.
Perhaps you already date your spouse on a regular basis.
Fantastic! Or perhaps you’re like me, and you find date nights just don’t come
around often enough. Let’s put aside all
our excuses and brainstorm for some ideas on how to make date nights happen.
Remember in the brainstorming stage, anything goes.
Make a list. Divide it into three columns. Under the first column list as many
date ideas as you can think of that are free. Under the second column list
ideas for dates that cost ten dollars or less. What? There’s nothing wrong with
cheap dates! Trust me. If it is thoughtful and sincere, your spouse will love
it. In the third column, make a list of possible dates that cost over ten
dollars.
Stop procrastinating and do that right now.
Done? Good. Now, grab your calendar. Look at the month
of May. Your calendar may look like mine. Appointments and deadlines already flood
the white space. I understand. Perhaps you’re thinking your spouse sees you
every day. So what’s the big deal?
The challenge is to date your mate. Set time aside just
for the two of you, without the distractions of household chores, children, and
zoning out in front of the T.V.
To be honest, my husband and I often find our “date
night” consists of a trip to the grocery store without kids. That’s cool, but
let’s all be intentional this month to do something different, and a little
more fun than deciding which type of Little Debbie snack cakes to buy.
Take a look at the calendar and find space for three
dates with your spouse. Block those off. Now, go back to your brainstorming
list and decide what you’ll do on those dates. Strategize.
Take care of preliminary details. Date, time, location.
Arrange childcare, if needed. Another struggle we have is our desire for family time. Nothing is wrong with that—as long as you set aside at least three dates
for just you and your spouse.
Only death, disease, or disaster should come between
you and these dates with your spouse. Seriously. Think how special your spouse
will feel when you’ve made this time with him/her a top priority.
What would be the perfect ending to your date? Imagine
that for a moment. Is it joyful and loving as you hold hands and walk off into the
sunset?
Alright, that may happen. But be prepared for a plot
twist and an unexpected ending. We can go to great lengths to plan the perfect
date but it may not materialize exactly the way we envisioned. Occasionally,
our plans fall flat.
We are human and life happens. Don’t let awkward
moments and mistakes discourage you from further dates with your mate. Perseverance
produces success.
One step to a wonderful date is to let go of all
preconceived notions of how it should be.
He should be making all the plans. She is
supposed to arrange childcare. Bringing me flowers would have been nice.
You are the one reading this post. So, at least for the
first date, you make all the plans. If no date nights will ever happen unless you plan them, then plan them!
Flowers are a lovely idea. Who says the husband is
the only one who can buy flowers? Purchase or pick some fresh flowers and place
them in your home to celebrate date night!
If your marriage already ranks at the top of your chart
then you know the work that goes into keeping it there. If your marriage is
struggling to reach the top five of your priorities, let me offer you some
hope.
To experience fulfillment and joy in your marriage, diligently
seek mentorship from the Master of relationships.
It is crucial to make your relationship with Jesus Christ
your number one priority. Making a daily date with Him will make an enormous
difference in how you live with and date your mate.
“But seek first his kingdom and
his righteousness,
and all these things will be given to you as well.” Matthew 6:33
How will you date your mate? (and please don’t limit it
to just the month of May!)
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